Winter Ice in Cameroon

As any Missourian would know, Missouri gets ice storms during winter. This means there are times you drive on ice, through sleet and freezing rain; but you carry kitty litter and salt to make it easier to get traction. I (DeAnna) don’t miss Missouri winters because I don’t like cold weather and I especially don’t like maneuvering on ice (except ice rinks on ice skates, but that’s a different story). The only time I miss cold weather is snow on Christmas morning and that’s it. I also remember a time when my sister and I were in High School and our porch and sidewalk were ice covered. It was the same time when there was a popular commercial that had an elderly woman who fell and she wore a necklace that was a transmitter for help and she would say, “Help! I’ve fallen and can’t get up!” into the transmitter. During the icy porch and sidewalk my Mom fell. We made sure she wasn’t badly injured and then after she was in the house started to reenact the scenario and added the “Help! I’ve fallen and can’t get up!” Poor Mom!
We are in the midst of dry season, which means we rarely have rain and it’s hot and dry. The complete opposite weather-wise of what Missouri has right now. A couple of weeks before we had fresh dirt added to our road to help with the large ruts and with dry season upon us it would give time for the dirt to pack down before rainy season. Last Thursday we had a pop-up rainstorm hit. I was driving home in the rain when I got to about mid way up the incline to our gate I started to slide down backwards and sideways at the same time. I didn’t know how to put our car into 4-wheel drive so I decided to leave the car where it was and wait for David to get home to drive it up the incline. Let me say, I’ve driven through Missouri mud in the summer time. I’ve attended countless mud runs, so I know mud, but this mud was like ice. The boys got out of the car and made it to our gate. They went inside and it was my turn to get out of the car. I got out, loaded my things into my arms and as I went to close the car door, both of my feet slid out from underneath me and I banged my head on the ground and was flat on my back. I couldn’t get over how the mud was just like ice. I didn’t sink into the mud, like Missouri mud. Our guard saw me fall and came to help. I was stunned and it took a bit of time to get up. In that moment I thought, “Man I wish I had one of the devices to say, Help, I’ve fallen and can’t get up!”

The frontMuddy Backside
As I arose, I was dizzy, dazed and confused. Our guard wanted the opportunity to drive our car and asked for the keys. He enlisted the help of neighbors and after about 30-45 minutes got our car to our gate. After I showered and rinsed all the mud out of my hair, I went to take a picture of them inching the car along to get it to our gate.
Now, I have whiplash. I’m nursing myself through the pain, tenderness, stiffness, swelling and mental confusion. I’ve learned that every experience I encounter in life isn’t wasted, even learning to maneuver on ice to prepare me for driving on mud ice on the opposite side of the world.

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Christmas Ornaments Flashback

Every year we make Christmas ornaments.  It started when David wanted ornaments to decorate the Christmas tree in his Air Force dorm room.  He went all out decorating his room, however, he wanted homemade ornaments for his tree.  I made some baked clay ornaments and while we were painting the ornaments, he asked me if I wanted to make ornaments every year with him for the rest of my life and presented a ring.  Of course I said a resounding, “YES!”

So every year we make ornaments to add to our collection.  Unfortunately I found out the hard way that my baked clay doesn’t hold up to tropical humidity and I needed to find alternative mediums of ornament making.  This year we made some out of wood and thick felt.

1998 Photo of Christmas tree in dorm room before homemade ornaments

Dorm Room Decorations2009 Ornament made in France

Ornament made in France2014 Ornament Making

2014 Ornament Making2014 Ornament Making

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Family Tradition Flashback

We have a family tradition to set-up our Christmas tree and decorate for Christmas the day after Thanksgiving.  We blast Christmas music and all get into the act of decorating and Christmas spirit.  This is our sixth year in a row celebrating Christmas overseas.  This is our fifth year in a row celebrating Christmas in Cameroon.

2009 Tree Photo in France

2009 Tree in France 2010 Tree Photo (1st Christmas in Cameroon)

2010 Tree

 

 

2011 Tree Photo (Christmas morning)

2011 Tree2012 Tree Photo

2012 Tree2013 Tree Photo (before decoration)

2013 Tree2014 Tree Photo

2014 Tree

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Top Ten Signs a Missionary is Ready for Furlough/Home Assignment

It’s hard for me (DeAnna) to write this blog because it reveals ugliness in myself.  We are all sinners and have ugliness, however, we usually try to hide it and not share it with others.  Just because someone is in full-time ministry doesn’t mean they aren’t people.  In the mission community it’s said that you can start to tell who’s ready for furlough/home assignment because of how they are acting or speaking.  I fear that I’ve given others around me through my actions and speech, the clear sign that I’m ready for a furlough/home assignment.  That’s where this blog has stemmed from.

In my opinion the “readiness for furlough/home assignment” behavior comes from stress of trying to prepare for a future life (housing, vehicles, furnishings, schooling, speaking engagements, doctor’s appointments, clothes shopping, getting cell phones, etc…) in your passport country while trying to juggle your daily life in your host country.  I think this living with one foot in both worlds leads to discontentment in your host country – grass being greener on the other side mentality.  I also think it may seem easier to leave a place if you’re not as content in that place, for example, being judgmental of your host country in hopes it won’t affect you as much when you leave.

Top Ten Signs a Missionary is Ready for a Furlough/Home Assignment (in my opinion)

10. You’re distracted in your thoughts trying to predict how life will be in your passport country while you are currently living in your host country

9. You start tying up loose ends, cleaning things out, paring down

8. You’re counting down and there’s still six months before the date on your airplane ticket arrives

7. You see an airplane flying overhead and mourn that you aren’t on that plane

6. You start to disconnect from others in your host country

5. You try to reconnect before arrival with others in your passport country

4. The things that once rolled off in your host country, now drive you nuts or angers you – like power outages, water cuts, being called “the white” or heavy traffic – just to name a few!

3. You’re more judgmental of others

2. You’re jealous/cynical of the eagerness and innocence overflowing from new arrivals to the field

1. Comments made by others is taken to a whole new hurting level

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Count Your Blessings

Name this tune:

Count your blessings, name them one by one,

Count your blessings, see what God hath done!

Count your blessings, name them one by one,

Count your many blessings see what God hath done!

Thanksgiving is a holiday that helps remind us to be thankful.  The day before Thanksgiving, a colleague whom I (DeAnna) walk with on Monday’s was in a freak accident.  She was returning to her home, about 1/8th of a mile from her house she needed to yield to a big truck coming towards her in the road.  As she was waiting for the truck to pass, the truck got caught on an electrical line and pulled the pole down.  She reacted quickly trying to get out of it’s way.  The pole smashed the cab of the truck.  The electrical lines on the pole busted apart from the pulling.  The busting of the lines was a wonderful blessing because if they hadn’t done that she could have been electrocuted.  She walked away without injury.  The Cameroonians who witnessed the accident and saw her walk away without injury were saying that she is a woman who prays.

smashed truck

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Corn, Corn, Everywhere

I (DeAnna) tried to plant a garden full of foods we miss using seeds from the USA and tomatoes and dill sprang forth.  The sweet corn, peppers, cantaloupe, etc…  all fizzled.  The man who helps me with our yard twice a month decided to secretly plant corn in our backyard.  When I saw corn popping up here, there and literally everywhere I didn’t know what to think.  I asked the man the next time he came about the corn.  He smiled from ear to ear and said he wanted to bless us with corn.  How can anyone be upset about their yard being swallowed up with corn when someone wants to bless you with corn?

I graciously thanked him and waited.  Our backyard slowly developed into a corn jungle.  There was corn in the planter area, compost bins, all around the planting area and compost bins, literally wherever there was a dirt patch; corn was coming from it.

Last week I noticed some of the 8 foot tall stalks had ears ready to be picked.  I harvested 16 ears of corn.  Sophie was given six to feed her family, Christian was given six to feed his family and we kept four to feed our family.  I harvested about 2/3rds of the crop.  The pictures are after 2/3rds were harvested.

Thank you, Manassas for blessing us with corn!

corn corn

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Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday to my wonderful husband!

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It isn’t very long.

Happy Birthday!

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Wedding Celebration

Saturday, David & I attended a wedding for an expatriate SIL colleague who was marrying a Cameroonian SIL colleague.  About one year ago exactly, we had the privilege of attending Carole & Etienne’s wedding.  The fabric chosen for both weddings were similar.  It was interesting to see how the wedding Saturday combined American and Cameroonian wedding celebration traditions.  Congratulations Charles & Gabrielle!

the happy coupleus on Saturday

Etienne and Carole's wedding

Etienne and Carole’s wedding

 

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Thanksgiving Flashback

It’s hard to believe Thanksgiving is Thursday.  I get excited about all the delicious food.  I save up cans of pumpkin, seasonings, jello, etc… for Thanksgiving and Christmas, so it’s exciting to get those out of storage and use them.  It’s also helpful that it never feels like Thanksgiving or Christmas here, so I don’t feel as homesick as I imagine I would if it also felt like the holidays.

Below are Thanksgiving flashback pictures.

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It Just Is

I (DeAnna) have struggled off and on for a couple of years now with issues I just can’t seem to “get over.”  This is quite uncommon for me because usually I can get over things and move on, however, I’m not in that kind of resilient place and haven’t been for quite some time.  Jonah’s accident in 2012, rocked me to my core.  When we returned from our time in the USA in 2012.  (Notice I didn’t use the word furlough because it wasn’t a furlough.  We were on family medical leave the whole time and bouncing from one surgeon’s office to another, from one family member’s spare bedroom to another and from one therapy clinic to another).  During our time in the USA in 2012, I was a zombie.  For the most part I was numb and doing what I needed to do in order to get through the day – survival mode.  I apologize to those who felt slighted by me or felt I was aloof.  When we returned to Yaoundé and I saw that basketball goal for the first time, I needed to sit on the bench that used to be by the court.  I was paralyzed.  I felt like I needed to run away, but my feet felt like they were set in concrete.  My heart started racing and my mind starting replaying Jonah’s accident.  I wasn’t even at school working the day he was injured, so I didn’t see the gruesome scene, but I did see the gruesome scene at the hospital and beyond.  Anyway, I went home that day and asked David to give me my passport.  He couldn’t because he turned them into the ministry to receive the residency paperwork needed.  I wanted to get on the next plane leaving and I couldn’t.  I felt imprisoned.  (these symptoms are PTSD symptoms) That’s when I knew I needed help.  I turned to someone who used to serve here as a missionary counselor.  She was helpful and although it took a lot of time and energy, I felt like I could stay and fight, not take the flight response.

When I watch kids play on playgrounds or sports, my mind is thinking through all the worst case scenarios.  I take inventory of medical supplies that would be needed in the event of, if I heard the SIL plane fly overhead because that would mean it’s not available, if a flight is needed is it to late in the day to fly, etc…  When Joshua said he wanted to play soccer, I was excited for him, but also terrified of what could happen.  Luckily I keep these things to myself and don’t express them to others who could get freaked out by it.  Joshua’s soccer season was without injury and I started to release slightly my white knuckle fist of worry.  On September 30, Jonah had a severe asthma attack.  I took on a lot of guilt from it, although I know the guilt is false guilt, I still harbor guilt.  His attack and the support I was giving to Rosalie during the battle with cancer and ultimate death of her grandson, put me into a tailspin.  I started having the same symptoms as before and knew I needed to yet again turn to my friend for help.  She’s been working me with and I greatly appreciate her help.

You may be one that thinks I’m weak and should only turn to God and no one else.  You may be thinking why am I in Cameroon.  You may be thinking a myriad of things.  I’ll only answer one of the speculated questions.

Why am I in Cameroon?  You know, I ask myself this question too.  The simple answer is God called me here and I’m being obedient.  Obedience isn’t easy, isn’t comfortable, isn’t packaged in neat packages.  Do I like Cameroon and wake up every morning feeling like it’s a dream come true?  NO WAY, but I stay because I was called here and that’s the only reason I need.  Does this mean I can’t be called somewhere else?  NO WAY!  God can lead me where He desires. There is a song I was introduced to a few years ago and I recently found it online.  The lyrics are below.

Though I feel afraid of territory unknown
I know that I can say
That I do not stand alone
For Jesus, You have promised
Your presence in my heart
I cannot see the ending
But it’s here that I must start

And all I know is You have called me,
And that I will follow is all I can say,
I will go where You will send me
And Your fire lights my way

What lies across the waves
May cause my heart to fear
Will I survive the day?
Must I leave what’s known and dear?
A ship that’s in the harbour
Is still and safe from harm
But it was not built to be there
It was made for wind and storm

All I Know by Ian White

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